Learning to Like Yourself

Elizabeth Grace always loved to sing, but as a child, she thought she was no good. In the church choir, she’d take the tenor part with the men, hoping no one would hear her. But her future manager saw potential, and invited her to song writing classes. Last year she was signed up by Dream Label, and released her killer debut single Like Myself.

Elizabeth grew up in a big church family. Bible reading and Sunday school were routine to her, but in her teenage years, struggles with her mental health lead her to question all that. ‘At that time,’ she said, ‘I didn’t know if I really believed in God, and I didn’t really care about the idea of Christianity. I think I was angry that I was feeling the way I was.’

At 15, Elizabeth’s feelings lead her to take drastic measures. This was the wakeup call she needed. ‘I can’t let this end right now,’ she thought. She remembers lying in her front yard with her Bible, crying out to God. ‘If You’re real, why don’t I feel like I have any purpose? I feel like I have nothing to give to the world.’

God responded by reminding her of John Chapter 13, where Jesus washes His disciples’ feet, and says,‘You do not realise now what I am doing, but later you will understand.’ (John 13:7 NIV)

She decided then that rather than following God because her parents did, she would actively pursue Him for herself. ‘Slowly but surely, I started really falling in love with God, and the things that He’d done for me, and realising that He’d made the ultimate sacrifice for me. Whenever I felt like I was worth nothing, God thought that I was worth everything, worth laying down His own life.’

Elizabeth wants to write songs for people asking the questions she was grappling with at 16. Like Myself is one of those. ‘I just have always struggled with the feeling of not being worthy, and feeling so condemned, and just completely worthless. And that song is just basically me talking to God, and saying, “I know that You love me, but I can’t even like myself, and I really need Your help in learning to grow that.”’

Whenever I felt like I was worth nothing, God thought that I was worth everything, worth laying down His own life

Elizabeth feels she’s now gotten out of that place, through therapy, and working on her relationships. Part of the process involved letting go of some of the people who weren’t supportive of her. Her second single Real Friends deals with the topic of friendship breakups, which she hasn’t heard much of in pop music.

It was really hard to say goodbye to people who had been part of her life for years, but she realised ultimately that they were pursuing things she didn’t want to be involved in. ‘We were not good for each other anymore. And I didn’t really agree with the decisions they were making, so I had to decide, you know what, I have to stand up for what I believe in, and I can’t follow you guys down that path.’

I started surrounding myself with people who built me up, and I started to view myself how others viewed me. And now it doesn’t even matter how others really view me anymore. I mean I want to make people happy, but at the end of the day, I’m happy with myself.’

If Elizabeth hadn’t gained that confidence through seeking God, we might have missed out on her awesome music. We love her honesty, and the way she’s offering guidance to people struggling with their self-worth like she did. Stay tuned to Vision180 to hear her tracks.

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