True, True Love
‘Love… is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up.’ 1 Corinthians 13:4 NKJ
1 Corinthians 13 is sometimes called the love chapter. Go to any wedding and there’s a good chance someone will read a bit or all of it. And if you’re thinking love is a wishy-washy, warm gooey feeling you get when you meet ‘the one’ and it will never leave… you better start reading it for yourself!
True love is a conscious choice and often hard work. It might be easy to overlook faults in a friend you only see for a few hours a day, but what about your family? Chances are you could make a long list of all the things they do that drive you crazy. But you still love them—so it doesn’t really matter if you’re finding fault with them too, right? Well, not exactly… Paul goes into a fair bit of detail about what love is, and what it’s not. Love ‘does not dishonour others… it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.’ (1 Corinthians 13:5 NIV) Take a look for yourself. It’s all good advice. The problem with letting yourself get irritated by others is you eventually forget to notice all their good qualities. So, how to avoid this? Dig for the gold, not the dirt. Remember that ‘love is patient and kind’: two qualities you’ll need if you want to prefer the best over the worst in others. If ‘God is love’ and ‘love is patient and kind’, then the closer you get to God in your relationship, the more you’ll look like Him. And the more you look like Him, the easier you’ll find it to focus on the positives—the things you really love about them—and you’ll hardly notice the annoying bits. So, when a friend or family member irritates you, don’t fixate on it. Instead, write down 5 things you absolutely love about them.
SoulFood: Jer 1–3, Luke 19:28–40, Ps 55:12–23, Prov 8:19–21
word4today an adaptation of The Word For Today is authored by Bob and Debby Gass and published under licence from UCB International Copyright © 2017