Love … rejoices with the truth.’ 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 ESV
Happily ever after… yeah, imagine you’re married. You and your husband/wife are such lovey-doveys you never disagree about anything. You never get cross or annoy each other. Chores are shared equally. Priorities are identical. You hatehatehate spending time apart because you’re completely rapt in each other’s company. Err… reality check, folks. Not sure whether this is a daydream or a fairytale, but if you think this is the ‘perfect marriage’ or ‘ideal relationship goals’, you’re in for a surprise. When you finally are in a serious relationship, you’re sure to find it clashes seriously with this kind of fantasy .
We so easily forget that every relationship is made up of imperfect people with weaknesses and failings. So if we’re banking on perfection in a romantic relationship, we’re going to be disappointed when the difficulties and stresses of life start to test it. Perhaps we need to re-think our definition of a ‘perfect marriage’. The Bible tells us: ‘Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.’ (1 Corinthians 13:4–7 ESV)
Unselfish love like this keeps us together. If two people who fall in love are willing to both stand together in love through whatever challenges of life they’ll face, they’re a pretty formidable team. It might not be sunshine, stars and flower petals all the way, but isn’t that a great definition of a perfect marriage to aim for?
SoulFood: Rom 3:21–6:23, John 8:31–41, Ps 83:1–8, Prov 29:19–22
word4today an adaptation of The Word For Today is authored by Bob and Debby Gass and published under licence from UCB International Copyright © 2018